Perhaps one could say the employee has betrayed you. If so, can the employer, if it so desires and to its best interest, validly terminate the services of the employee having an extra-marital affair with his or her co-employee? Just having that conversation with my boss would be intensely awkward and uncomfortable for me, in and of itself. It is kind of unfair to Anna, but rightly or wrongly, employers generally hold managers to a higher standard than subordinates. Have you and your wife had any trouble? If you believe you truly can detach yourself from this situation after you mentionhis wife, then go ahead and go that route. A reader writes: Our office is rife with gossip regarding a married man in our office and young single co-worker. Except as a business owner, he is also responsible for the health and happiness of his other employees.
I just wanted you to know. Further, there is no way to keep that kind of action a secret from your family, including your children, and it may make you sound vindictive, rather than concerned about the man you love and about your family. Tell him you can't deal with him directly right now, and you certainly don't want to see him outside of work. She nipped a potential situation in the bud in a light way but totally called him out! In every case, they would have preferred if someone had dropped them a hint as soon as humanly possible. If it blows up in her face, is she going to feel like she was betrayed by her manager and other coworkers who knew, but said nothing? It took the woman years to get over the deception and the embarrassment of not knowing. Mostly human mind won't follow the corporate and government rules when these kind of too personal things happens. Having said that, it's totally understandable.
My concern about option 2 would be, if she really has no idea, how good is her poker face? Will it have a wider affect on other staff? Also…circumstantial evidence may not be a slam dunk but if you get enough of it together you can make a pretty good case. We went to have lunch together one day in separate vehicles at the office food court. If it was me which it obviously isn't , I'd probably start off with telling him to take 1-2 weeks vacation. But, work, in almost all cases, should be discussed in the open, and not behind closed doors. How do you know he won't betray your company? If it does, I respond to the behaviors that affect my work and the overall business. A fraction of at least six 6 months shall be considered one 1 whole year. I think giving people in this type of situation the benefit of the doubt is the best way to handle it.
So yes, inaction could also have consequences, as she might well feel a loss of trust in you. She was raised in a very religious family and had only held hands with a boy before a senior executive began a relationship with her. If you were to fire the cuckold employee, the result would most likely be very detrimental to the morale within the company. My money is on Anna not knowing. Ron's advice in handling various employment matters has resulted in substantial financial savings to our firm. We dated for a little while, then progressed into me being his girlfriend after a few months.
I am a director at mid-size company where I manage 10 managers, each of whom manages between 10-20 employees. It creats toxic enviroment in the work place. Furthermore, they continue to behave professionally around each other at work. I had a good friend at work who is a friendly, nice guy. There are arguably many morals to be taken from the above story. If you are not married to this company for life, and have started to consider moving on, then this may be a kick in the pants. I was fired from one of the worlds largest bottling companies for having a relationship with a married co-worker.
He only sees her when he visits the U. The reality is women get held to different standards and acknowledging that the reputation issue is less likely to follow Alex, no matter how much we wish it were otherwise, is not inappropriate. He has been an important part of the company. People have been killed for far less. If people keep their personal lives out of the workplace this becomes a total non-issue. Being the most versed in the company in a given area does not mean that you are necessarily working appropriately, or that no one else could come in and improve performance. This type of person is the kind who is likely to have put something into the code to blow it up if he is fired.
Change all passwords if you do. Although illegal, killing the messenger is not passe. Everyone knew and thought he was a dirty sketchy letch. Let's say for example we have an employee Bob, and a second employee Jim. What she does with it is up to her. How will that work on half the amount of money you now have? However I believe you should look at the big picture and see how much you were invested in those relationships. If I were Anna, I might start looking for another job or a transfer to another department at that point.
As a result of Mr. What if someone like that simply becomes seriously ill and is out of the office for a week or two? And yes, the discipline should be to both the male and female officer in question. Office relationships are fine, but secret undisclosed ones with a member of management? And if I were you, I wouldn't be afraid of letting the team know exactly why barring danger of libel, etc. In my case: I am the boss. This is a hard one all-around. I decided to turn around and head back to my desk and not get anywhere near that conversation. I am a matured woman so watching a married man take advantage of a single, younger woman in the work place brings into question, his impression of his staff.