Jeans and tshirts are comfortable clothes to live life in. Then her priorities have changed. We get, we really do. However, if a person reads the overly-abundant blogs available on the internet, they appear to be overwhelmingly of the opinion that narcissistic traits worsen as the narcissist ages. Cut all ties as soon as you can. He started acting really strange, etc… you know the signs….
I know for a fact, that he has not changed…. Delete, avoid, and never speak to again as they will try to reel you back in. I recently have asked the same question to myself. I do believe in hindsight that I was so shocked into submission to all of this, and that I was afraid of who he was or what he would be capable of doing that I just went along with it so as not to create an enemy. In my family, the parents did not tuck us in.
Now I am forced to loose even more. We cannot believe these individuals are happy in any way. Allowing a social predator to abuse more during their senior years is cruel, not refusing to enable. And the reason for my stubbornness is my determination to stay to the end in order to pass down our house etc. How slow on the up-take am I? You must have control over how others see you.
I will be thinking of you…. Hypersensitivity, however, decreased by more than half at age 45 and was on the floor at age 58, almost at zero. Had a lot of expectations that the courts would save my financial bacon. I sat on the floor crying as he yelled at me all the way out the door. I am scared then when he finishes his trip he is going to try and come back to me, since I am the only person he knows where we live. They will not forgive, hold on to the pain, and project that pain to others.
I did 22 years ago with a 2 year old no job, no money. Narcissists never look back at the horrendous pain they have caused—pain and suffering that completely disrupts and damages the lives of their own spouses and children. The more gregarious and family-orientated — often flunk at work, leap from one job to another, relocate erratically, forever itinerant and peripatetic. One of many temper tantrum outbursts… My son drove down and Ben put him in a roach hotel for his stay over on the way. Even without such dire consequers there may still be hurt feelings that result from such encounters. I love my family and pray for a miracle or reconciliation but his anger will not extinguish itself. I pretty much was shocked into reality and said to myself that all of his sex crap had to go; I could no longer participate.
Only certain attendant mental health problems — such as or disorder — can be ameliorated or controlled with medication. I am really concerned for my daughter. On the other hand, children can take away attention from the narcissist. Like other entries on this blog, I too feel like I am so damaged from this woman. I lived like you in a two bedroom home with my family of four.
No warning bells at all were ringing at this point? He moved his girlfriend back to our home town after about 5 months, demanded a divorce, married the woman, and began a period of high profile, local hero activities. He was consumed and obsessed in all kinds of ways. He was hot, then cold, but it was always what he wanted, not me. So, the next day of him contacting me and telling me how he is now flat broke due to jail, that he no cell phone due to no minutes, he had no cigarettes, etc…. But she told me that because he was very promiscuous, then, she dumped him too. I used to look into his eyes and see deep sadness.
I was devalued, and discarded, along with my minor son. Just out of the blue, he stopped calling me and texting and when I would call him there was no answer what so ever. He came home in a taxi. Redeeming a parent-child relationship later in life is highly unlikely; having a genuine, rewarding relationship with an aging narcissistic parent impossible. At any rate when I left him the real insanity began. I see now that if one is raised by narcissists, one has to learn to accommodate their behaviours in order to survive. A bunch of ingrates just waiting for them to die.