It can also stop unwanted advances as we grieve. Loosing my second husband has been the most difficult thing I have every had to face. Holding on to such an emotion-filled piece of jewelry can cause unnecessary tension in a new marriage, where a new spouse needs to know that he now comes first. It will be two years in just a few days. I had never thought of doing anything other than continuing to wear my wedding ring. We had met about two years prior to that.
No one will really understand what we are going through until they walk in our shoes. Let me know why you decided to take it off or leave it on. My wedding and engagement ring will go to my granddaughter so that the significance of our love for each other will be passed down. I read the article and the comments here. I did have a friend suggest I start taking them off at night, to get use to the idea of not wearing them.
We were five months and five days from our 30th wedding anniversary. This is a good subject and I remember pondering quite a bit at the time. Thank you to everyone for sharing your heartfelt story of coping and thriving and existing all rolled into one journey. I too am still wearing my wedding rings and at this point have no intention of taking them off. Right now, only 10 weeks into this journey, taking it one challenging step at a time I have decided to wear my rings, and I also wear his on my right hand we were pracitcally the same size so it fits — I know it time that will change, and when it feels right I will change it.
I am weeping now reading the stories of the other postings but I feel less alone now having read them Thank you and I wish everyone the very best of everything in life. Each of us had a really bad first marriage, so, we really appreciated each other all the more. He was a working man and he couldn't wear his rings for most of the stuff he did. A perfect fit, he used to say we were a perfect fit. He never told me I should take them off he just asked why, and when I thought about it I decided perhaps it was time.
You can read more about my journey as a widow in my memoir, Twenty-Eight Snow Angels. Anyway, right now, mine are still where they have been for years. I had such a break down right there in the garage. The other 3 things on my list…. In 2007, I remarried a great guy I met on Match. Another time when I was talking to a woman about losing my husband over a year ago she asked if I was remarried.
I placed the ring on my finger, but I was afraid I would lose it. Instead of worrying about the traditional or correct thing to do, I believe you should do whatever makes you and only you comfortable. I do wonder if everyone who are the widows wear their wedding band still. I think what you did was so lovely and such a great personal solution. So at first, I decided to take my wedding ring off and save it for one of my daughter's if the want it the other can have their dads. After the weekend without the ring, I accepted that I can leave it off and move on. It was kinda of awkward for me to reply their questions because they recongized my wedding rings on my finger.
I had his ring downsized and still wear it on the second finger, left hand. There are different traditions about engagement rings, but in the Catholic church except for anglophones the ring goes on the right. He has been a guest on over 20 radio stations in the U. Our relationship will never change — I will always love him, he will always love me. I survived the night without it but I was asleep.
I doubt I will ever be able to wear a ring on my left hand again. Do you still wear your wedding ring? My delicate gold bandB fits under the garnet band. Less than a year later I was seriously hurt in a fall. The wedding band I am thinking of making into a family ring that will have our birth dates along with our four children. Participating is part of the promise I made. My mother; who is in her 80s and has dementia; became very worried that suitors were being put off by her having a wedding ring said suitors being hallucinations , even though, as a widow, she was now single.
I wonder if its something men anguish over a lot less, or do they just not search for answers to this question. I will be tattooing a Batman symbol on my left ring finger in place of my rings, he loved Batman. When you are ready you will know and do whats best for you We all grieve in our own way and I don't think anyone can really answer that question for you. Now I am still very much attached to these rings. Read your post about holidays and 4th of July today. But the bare ring finger just didn't feel right. I just don't know if I dare invest so much in one person again, I'd be so afraid of losing him.